105: Why our pain & challenges are not better or worse than another mother's. Discussing misscarriage and loss with Kundalini Instructor mama Alanna Jane
Episode Description
Today’s guest has a way with words that had me in an almost meditative state, just reading her social media posts and written reflections. Alanna Jane is a mama, Kundalini and meditation teacher as well as a spiritual guide for women. She lives in Tasmania with her husband and four year old son Rumi, and speaks with such a beautiful vulnerability about loss, hardship and renewal.
After losing her business and having a second trimester miscarriage, all within a very short time, Alanna experienced one of the toughest times in her life. To her, being a Soul Mamma means maintaining practices that keep her connected to self, which is how she managed to navigate the grief of such losses.
Alanna’s life now looks dramatically different than the fast paced life she once led as a Creative producer in Australia and New York and now recognizes the wisdom in simplicity. She calls the birth of her son, Rumi, a profound awakening that changed the trajectory of her life forever.
Today she is going to bravely share about homebirth, miscarriage, loss and grief and the power of having a spiritual practice during motherhood. A longtime yoga practitioner and teacher, Alanna is always willing to do the deep dive into her inner world and will share a bit of it with us today.
Take-aways:
Why mothers shouldn’t minimize their pain
How the stress of losing a business coincided with the loss of her pregnancy
Her story of a second trimester miscarriage at the same time she closed her business down
How her midwife had to break the news to her that her baby’s heart had stopped
Dealing with the denial and then acceptance of losing a pregnancy midterm
Not having her partner at home during her loss
How her and her partner grieved this process differently and how hard that was
Why going through grief can really test even the strongest relationships
Why she admires her partner so much
How her son predicted her current pregnancy
How her yoga practice and inner work have aided her in this experience
Why mamas should talk about their pain when they are ready to speak about it